Putting things right
Today I can use restorative steps to plan a fair repair after a falling-out.
A Look back3 min
- 1.
Circle the first step in the STOP, BREATHE, CHOOSE routine.
StopChooseBreathe - 2.
Circle the question that shows you are thinking about how a friend feels.
How did that make you feel?Why are you being so sensitive?Did you hear what I said? - 3.
Your friend says, 'We got in late because of the bell.' Circle the best way to check you understood them.
Ask: Do you mean the bell was late?Nod and walk offGuess and keep going
B Watch me, then you4 min
Ola moved Sam's group drawing without asking and the corner tore. Follow the steps.
Step 1: get the facts. Ola moved the drawing and it tore.
Step 2: each person says how they felt.
Step 3: name who was hurt. Sam and the group lost part of their work.
Step 4: agree a fix. Ola will help redraw the corner at lunch.
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One step is missing from this chain. Circle the step that fits the empty box.
Name who was hurtAsk for a sorryPick a new seat
C Your turn7 min
Read each situation and do the task. Think about what would really put things right.

- 1.
Sam borrowed Priya's coloured pencil and snapped it. Circle the best repair action for Sam.
Give Priya a matching pencilSay sorry and nothing elseTell the class it was her fault - 2.
Write each card in the column where it belongs.
Give back the borrowed thingSay sorry and nothing elseSit with the group againSay it was only a jokeSomething you can see or do Only words - 3.
Number these steps 1 to 4 in the order you would use them.
- Agree what will be done
- Name who else was affected
- Hear what happened from both sides
- Ask how each person felt
- 4.
Jamie laughed at Leila's idea in front of the group. Then he said, 'I was only joking.' Circle the most honest answer to 'What were you thinking?'
I wanted a laugh and did not think how Leila would feelI was joking, so it does not countLeila started it, so I was fine
Say it out loud: Which answers fixed the harm with an action, and which used only words? How could you tell?
D Spot the mistake3 min

- 1.
Why is Jamie's claim wrong?
E Think deeper4 min

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Write one repair action Jamie could do, and one honest thing Leila could say back.